“I don’t want to see another before and after pic. I swear she doctored that!” That’s what I heard yesterday in the gym locker room when these girls were talking about someone they knew doing the Kayla Itsines BBG workout program. I don’t know who they were talking about, nor do I do that program, nor do I know much about it, but thought to myself, wow, she must look good and man, I hope my friends don’t feel that way about me!
Outside of my super close friends and family, there’s an unspoken silence about my blogging. Or my Jessrunsblessed Facebook or Instagram accounts, for that matter. And that’s okay. But I hope that they don’t make people uncomfortable. That’s not the intent.
I hope people don’t think that I run around with my go pro or cell phone and take runfies (run selfies) just for the confidence boost of people “liking” or “commenting” on them. Because by now, we all have to know that any photo we post on any social media platform is not going to be a bad one. We are obviously going to retake it or not post it if we don’t like it, right? Maybe that’s vain but it’s reality and 90% of us are guilty of it. But me posting action shots on my blog and running social sites is to inspire, to inform, to uplift and to motivate. Just like the thousands of others on Instagram and blogs I’ve checked out do for me. I’ve set a separate “page” up and IG account so as not to annoy my regular facebook friends, but if I do annoy you, please know, I’m not trying to sell you anything or push my “chosen” photos in your face.
They are just that. The cream of the crop. The ones where my thighs look the slimmest, my waist the smallest, my face the slimmest (if that’s possible with this big melon), and my running form the best. So don’t think in person, I don’t have moments wear my belly hangs over my crop waistband. It does. And my stomach does get full and isn’t always six pack taut. Those pictures, just like the ones on your phone don’t inspire me or make me feel great about my fitness journey and goals, the make me mad. So just like in an interview or when we go out in public (not your BFFs house that doesn’t count), we put our best face forward. Don’t fault me for that. But know it’s that.
The shaming of others for their goals, achievements and dreams whether or not we share the same interests seems ridiculous to me. I don’t understand why we, especially women, do this to one another. I know everyone talks a good game about building each other up but hearing things like I heard today is really defeating. I think people automatically assume things about others without actually knowing it. Maybe that girl doing the BBG workout need to hear a “Good job, you’re doing great!” or a “Keep it up! You inspire me!” She didn’t always work that hard. And any goal we make for ourselves, if it is indeed a goal, is hard. Because we aren’t there yet.
I truly just want to share my journey toward reaching my goals. If you want to follow along, great. If not, no biggie. And if you want to talk about it, great! I love talking about running, in case you didn’t know.
Oh, and by now, I’ve gotten pretty good at taking pictures. J